First, the email arrives and you’re elated. The conversation you had was on the level and the project you were told about is real. They’ve invited you in (virtually or in-person) to discuss how your services could be utilized to produce the deliverables and achieve must-do objectives. Step two, the interview goes well, from your perspective. You’re not naive, but you feel confident about the possibility of being offered the contract.

But a week slips by and then two-—crickets. Uh, oh, this doesn’t feel good! Why haven’t they gotten back?

Unfortunately, this is a fairly common occurrence. There are any number of perfectly understandable and valid reasons reasons that delay the follow-up after an interview. It’s nerve wracking for Freelancers, though, who are anxiously awaiting a status update. It’s something that can wake you up at night. The wall of silence leaves you to twist in the wind.

Well, take heart—silence doesn’t always signal rejection. Why don’t we talk about a game plan to help you survive post-interview silence when it happens to you? There are proactive questions you can ask that might make the interview team less likely to resort to a news blackout. There are coping strategies that can help you understand why this sometimes happens. Life is about managing expectations and you can train yourself to keep calm and carry on, confident that you’re still in the game and can still win this thing. Here are a few things that you can do:

Questions that encourage follow-up

Communicate to the interview team that you want follow-up and not silence by saying something like this to the interviewer, “In light of the candidates you’ve met with so far, do you see me moving forward in the selection process?” However, bear in mind that you could be the first of two or more Freelancers who’ve been invited to discuss the project. You could be a top candidate today but later get knocked down the list tomorrow by more experienced competitors who come along.

Another question you might ask the interviewer is, “When will you review and compare the candidates and make a recommendation to the the decision-maker?” Below are four common scenarios that might cause you to encounter post-interview silent treatment:

• Interview recap

When you speak with more than one interviewer, they will need to conduct a candidate recap and debrief. Candidates may or may not be interviewed on the same days, which means that interviewers can’t share their feedback with each other on the same days either. Furthermore, every interviewer is not necessarily on time with providing feedback; it could take a few days to align interviewer calendars and schedule the debrief meeting.

The unexpected sometimes happens—-in the middle of the selection process, the decision-maker or one of the stakeholders might go off on vacation, depart on business travel, or come down with COVID. The selection process would be put on hold and the Freelancers get to wait and wonder what’s going on.

• Project spec change

The desired outcomes or deliverables, time table or even the purpose might change, perhaps in response to economic fluctuations that impact the prospect’s business. Sometimes, unfortunately, your hoped-for project may be put on hold or even canceled due to the changing economy or business needs. This scenario can happen fairly often, as there are fluctuations and uncertainty in the economy that could impact revenue. Companies may reevaluate what they need and cut budgets.

• Making an offer

The decision-maker could be discussing how to finalize an offer to someone — but maybe not with you. If you’re not the number one choice, you may be number two and will need to wait, in silence. However, should the top candidate reject the offer, the second round pick usually gets the prize!

• Ghosting

If you’re getting silence from your interview contact no matter how often you reach out, you are being ghosted and it’s probably for one of the above reasons. Ghosting is selfish and cowardly, unprofessional and unacceptable. It hurts. Remind yourself that it says more about the interviewer than it does about you. They did you a favor, you don’t want to work for such people anyway. Apply elsewhere.

On the other hand, If the interviewer stays in touch, it’s guaranteed that you’re in the top two or three. If you’re told something like, “We’ll have some decisions made next week” and the debrief time frame has passed, either the decision-maker has not made the decision, or s/he offered the assignment to another candidate and they’re waiting for a response before rejecting you (because you are the second choice).

Silence can speak louder than words. When interviewing for a project assignment, be bold enough to ask questions to obtain information on where you are in the selection process. If you were invited to interview but ultimately didn’t get the assignment, that means your resume demonstrates your experience and your interview skills are solid, but you weren’t the top candidate. The rejection may have nothing to do with you , it may be more about interviewer preference for a certain educational degree or certification, a specific competency, or a competing candidate’s superior interviewing skill.

Thanks for reading,

Kim

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